Deconstructing anger
Anger has different destinations. We try to be angry with ourselves, first persons (close ones) or the third person (society).There are people who are like demi gods of patience and can stand cool like a cucumber, even if the solar winds have a romantic tryst with them. At other extreme, there are people who play fiddle with anger now and then. There are of course people who can play the tradeoff game with high levels of efficacy.
I always felt anger to be a natural window for emotions. I can't remember anybody (people who have been close to me) who have not let them out in the topology of anger. Just that people have different trigger levels and the person to whom they showcase it changes. Sometimes we regret for letting the dogs bark and there are sometimes when we feel relieved once we have expressed it. It is a kind of negative emotion and it needs to be vanquished at the earliest for our own good.
I was just digging around for the cause of anger. We tend to show our anger once we are disappointed with an outcome which might relate to us. It can be directly correlated to the expectation which was built into the outcome. Humans cannot live without expectations and we ought to meet situations where our expectations are not met. We have several ways of handling them; the first course of action is to show anger. If we fail to do so and the notion of disappointment still stays within us, it may manifest in the forms of digression and depression which are all different grades of handling disappointment.
We often don't possess the strength to face disappointment and find ourselves in such states. I certainly accept anger to be an inevitable avatar of emotions; I was trying to decipher the purpose of its incarnations. Anger comes out in every relationship when expectations are not met and it is fascinating dimension of love. It is a part and parcel of every relationship, it's a mere mirage when the cajoling happens and pardon beckons.
There are extreme cases as well, some people used it as a weapon to achieve means, it is often used to acquire power and in certain cases to create fear to protect one's ego. Anger in such cases arises when one is not able to entertain disappointment, gets hurt, feels insecure and safety wears the mask of anger.
So many forms, so many reasons, I can't stop admiring anger.
I always felt anger to be a natural window for emotions. I can't remember anybody (people who have been close to me) who have not let them out in the topology of anger. Just that people have different trigger levels and the person to whom they showcase it changes. Sometimes we regret for letting the dogs bark and there are sometimes when we feel relieved once we have expressed it. It is a kind of negative emotion and it needs to be vanquished at the earliest for our own good.
I was just digging around for the cause of anger. We tend to show our anger once we are disappointed with an outcome which might relate to us. It can be directly correlated to the expectation which was built into the outcome. Humans cannot live without expectations and we ought to meet situations where our expectations are not met. We have several ways of handling them; the first course of action is to show anger. If we fail to do so and the notion of disappointment still stays within us, it may manifest in the forms of digression and depression which are all different grades of handling disappointment.
We often don't possess the strength to face disappointment and find ourselves in such states. I certainly accept anger to be an inevitable avatar of emotions; I was trying to decipher the purpose of its incarnations. Anger comes out in every relationship when expectations are not met and it is fascinating dimension of love. It is a part and parcel of every relationship, it's a mere mirage when the cajoling happens and pardon beckons.
There are extreme cases as well, some people used it as a weapon to achieve means, it is often used to acquire power and in certain cases to create fear to protect one's ego. Anger in such cases arises when one is not able to entertain disappointment, gets hurt, feels insecure and safety wears the mask of anger.
So many forms, so many reasons, I can't stop admiring anger.
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Anger is a definitely a tool for emotion...no doubt...but anger stems not bcoz of somebody else’s inefficiency but simply bcoz we are not equipped enough to accept a few things and are a let down ourselves.... we are actually not angry at them but at ourselves, but net net it does translate as if we are angry at them...but then like they say kadum kovam kannai kaedukkum (Anger blinds your foresight/hindsight; which ever…) when your angry you cant think…you just cant think...I don’t see anything good stemming out of it...
Posted by
Jeyamurugan DG |
10:33 pm
ofcourse as you said at the end of the day,it is up to us to handle it although it may arise of out others inefficiency
I think we have give us fewer chances although anger cannot be completed mitigated till we have normal humanly feelings
Posted by
Sara |
1:48 am
True...anger suppressed at one-place finds its way out at another place in a different form....
Posted by
Jeyamurugan DG |
9:58 pm
anger cannot and should not be mitigated in my opinion...its just one those various emotions as humans we are lucky to feel and express :)
that reminds me eager for posts on other emotions including sadness, despair, depression, sympathy, empathy, and so many many more...man u can spend ur entire lifetime analysing such varied and complex emotions :D
Posted by
Sudarshan |
10:00 pm
@Sudharshan
I also agree anger to be a part of the emotional spectrum, its just like happiness or excitement.
I just want ourselves to be aware of the cause of anger to be aware of ourselves just to refine oneself.
We experience such a myraid number of emotions and I feel sometime should be allocated to think about them as well
Posted by
Sara |
10:36 pm