Deception & Dissonance
There are certain characters that bug me a lot and I can't stop pondering about them. At times I deliberately ignore their provocations as i got to understand that, they are just the reflection of the experiences, which the society gave it to them. As life moves ahead, we come across a fraction of people with absolute mental corruption and I can vouch that there is such a kind of shaded person in everyone of us, although the frequency, intensity and duration differs. Everybody undergoes positive and negative emotions but as we gain experience, we mature and the proportion skews towards the positive side for most of the people who want to make their life a better one.
I have observed a peculiar person for sometime now, imbibed with the natural pros and cons of the human mind. The person has a peculiar habit, the person speaks gregariously when the person is with him and you won't believe he can do an equally good job back talking with authentic derogation when the other person is not around. The fact that the person points out the other side of the person does not disgust me; it is the duality of the character that bugs me. I can agree that not every person has the time to share his views in person about the first person; I can’t really take the fact that people can show deceptive emotions to people who interact with them very personally.
I really pity the plight of such a kind of person who morphs every now and then. The person would have to emote positive emotions when it is really not the person's real feeling. There is this element of constant dissonance which disturbs the mind, as the conscious never fails to ponder on the deception. Now the person can never be true to himself or to the other person. The consequence is that the person creates a turmoil in his interpersonal relationships as everybody gets to know of this deceptive emotion sooner or later.
The consequence is that the person understands this sooner or later and changes himself. The other consequence is bad, the duality persists and the person starts to defend the interpersonal turbulences attributing it to the "negatives" in the other person. He tries to substantiate his stand and it becomes a way of life. The person fails to accept the faults in him and it is really dangerous to do that. It brings a very defensive attitude and person builds a rigid wall pointing fingers at others rather than accepting that every human has faults including him.
Any person with self esteem would not agree to share his time with them leave alone formal or mandatory relationships. What is the way out? What if the somebody points this out to the concerned person? There some chances that person realizes it. The other option is bad, what if the person still swears that everybody else is wrong and stands by his virtue. Feedback only affects an open mind and we can only hope that the person changes to make their life a better one at least.
I have observed a peculiar person for sometime now, imbibed with the natural pros and cons of the human mind. The person has a peculiar habit, the person speaks gregariously when the person is with him and you won't believe he can do an equally good job back talking with authentic derogation when the other person is not around. The fact that the person points out the other side of the person does not disgust me; it is the duality of the character that bugs me. I can agree that not every person has the time to share his views in person about the first person; I can’t really take the fact that people can show deceptive emotions to people who interact with them very personally.
I really pity the plight of such a kind of person who morphs every now and then. The person would have to emote positive emotions when it is really not the person's real feeling. There is this element of constant dissonance which disturbs the mind, as the conscious never fails to ponder on the deception. Now the person can never be true to himself or to the other person. The consequence is that the person creates a turmoil in his interpersonal relationships as everybody gets to know of this deceptive emotion sooner or later.
The consequence is that the person understands this sooner or later and changes himself. The other consequence is bad, the duality persists and the person starts to defend the interpersonal turbulences attributing it to the "negatives" in the other person. He tries to substantiate his stand and it becomes a way of life. The person fails to accept the faults in him and it is really dangerous to do that. It brings a very defensive attitude and person builds a rigid wall pointing fingers at others rather than accepting that every human has faults including him.
Any person with self esteem would not agree to share his time with them leave alone formal or mandatory relationships. What is the way out? What if the somebody points this out to the concerned person? There some chances that person realizes it. The other option is bad, what if the person still swears that everybody else is wrong and stands by his virtue. Feedback only affects an open mind and we can only hope that the person changes to make their life a better one at least.
Labels: Character, Deception, Dissonance
you said it sara, there is one in everyone of us....in retrospection, we talk about ppl who mean nothing to us...if you ever find someone cribbing about is so called best friend to someone else...then there is no friendship at all....i guess we all talk about our bosses the max behind his back!!!hope am not wrong :)
Posted by Jeyamurugan DG | 4:22 am
yea, the devil is there in everyone of us.In my opinion there is nothing wrong in cribbing about our friend to another friend.
We shall be lion rather than being a jackal in those circumstances.
Its human tendency la to crib about somebody and it helps sometimes to soothe our mind.
Posted by Sara | 4:40 am