What is your Relationship Quotient(RQ) ?
Yet another jargon to fetter you people, introducing Relationship Quotient (RQ) to you.Funda's first, all of us are related to people, things, thoughts, emotions, beliefs, ideologies and what not around us.This life is sustained with relationships all the way, even before we quacked out of our mother's womb , elapsing even after we find ourselves as dust matter flickering in this universe.There are relationships which are part and parcel of us, with or without our intensions, with voluntary or involtantary acceptances.As we channelise our horizons, we tend to change our relationship universe and constanly evolve in a flux of relations.
It's a mutual process, the people or things to which we are related is moulded by our thoughts and environment, the vice-versa applies as well.Our thought process is based on the memory of the past and is conditioned by our experience we seeked or negated.It comes to this coupling effect, all our relations are tagged by the perceptions we have engrained in our neurons in the brain from the past.I know you must be saying, its too much to think, i too felt that after i spent some time dwelling on this.
Although we enounter diverse people (used here as a proxy for the object of relation), we only relate to a subset of them.That comes to another "?", What is the basis of realtionships?.
All relationships are build upon the basic blocks of understanding, respect, tolerance and trust.The more you trust somebody, greater the strength built into it.It has its flip side as well.you are becoming more vulvernable.It all begins as a sequential and then transforms into a concurrent process, if we need to build relationships, we need to understand the object we want to relate.we need to the understand its chemistry, then comes this process of respecting its characteristics.Then comes the most vital part, we need to tolerate the taxonomy which does'nt go with us and that comes when we understand the characteristics inherent in that object.We build trust to reduce predictabilty in what we seek and the reality is that nothing is predictable!!!
yet another question, what kind of relations do we create or sought to evolve?.There are two major types
- Relate to similar characteristics which we posess or want to posses-"Birds of the same feather flock together"
- Relate to diagonal characterictics which we have been deprived off -"Opposites attract each other"
I could relate this to a lot of objects to which i have built relations.My friends arounds me, aspirations in life, the books i like, the career i want, ideologies i preach, things i love, all of them are the reflection of me and my past experiences.I drive my relations with objects which allow me to seek what i want.
As far as you RQ is concerned, try to evalute yourself in-lines of the buliling blocks w.r.t your object of relation.
"The more you trust somebody, greater the strength built into it.It has its flip side as well.you are becoming more vulvernable"
Well said sara.. very true..the more we trust and get closer to others, the more we expect and the more we expect, the less vulnerable we become to realities getting distorted with our expectations.
The true test of RQ i would say is not building relationships but in shutting down your ego and try and rebuilld relationships that have been lost. The Irony is this would happen in case of your most wonderful relationships .
Posted by
Bhatter |
12:15 am
I would disagree with Deepu here, the more we expect the surer are our chances of being disappointed;we do not become less vulnerable in case of high expectations
Ani
Posted by
Anonymous |
7:11 am
Ani..
actually you are right.. i meant 'the more vulnerable' only..was just a typo so to say
:)
Deepak
Posted by
Bhatter |
7:57 pm
test
Posted by
Anonymous |
11:14 pm
Trust, Respect and Tolerance - never thought of it that way!
Annie and Deepu, being more Vulnerable is defenitely not a bad thing. In fact, its essential for any good relationship!
Posted by
Santhosh |
12:32 am